Every relationship (marriage or courtship) has an emotional bank Account
Every action we take either makes a deposit or a withdrawal
Just like your normal bank account…if you withdraw more than you deposit, you run the risk of overdrawing your account.
We all know that an account in good standing is one with sufficient funds ALWAYS.
My advice is that you always fund your emotional account
Every little thing that puts a smile on your partner’s face is a deposit.
Sending a text to wish him/her a good day at work…or to ask how their day is going
Remembering important dates…birthdays, anniversaries
Being helpful…lightening your partner’s workload. Don’t be that guy that sits watching TV while the wife slaves away in the kitchen…help with something, set the dining, anything that reduces her workload.
PDA (For the married)- Public Display of Affection…this tilts more toward men than women. Let your partner know that you are proud to be with her in public. Don’t be the stranger in public, lover in the bedroom type of guy.
Let your partner’s concerns concern you
Keep commitments – do what you say you will do, when you say you will do it
A little hug
A little ‘thank you’
A little ‘you’re the best’
A little treat, like taking care of her tires before winter or helping him pick out his work clothes.
A little going out of your way to make life easier for him/her
A little compromise
A little courtesy…something as simple as opening the door
Smile, let your partner know you are happy he/she is there with you
A little unexpected gift (not necessarily expensive)
A little kind gesture that shows how much your partner means to you
Don’t be the taker in the relationship…don’t be a perpetual ‘withdrawer’
Sincere Apology when necessary – knowing when you are wrong and admitting your mistakes prevents the wound from festering and helps the healing process. Don’t ever be too proud to apologize
Fund your emotional bank…you never know when you will need to make a huge withdrawal.
“… by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others” Philippians 2: 2-4
by Lanre Olagbaju